Sylvia Sánchez Alcantara

What would’ve happened if I’d said yes? Where would I be if I had dared to do it? What would my life be like if I had started?

We all have irreversible repentance that one day begins to corrode our minds. “If I had …” made the decision and I’d have dared instead of having reacted with fear.

That executioner that resonates in our head is our internal voice, responsible for judging ourselves. We feel regret when we think we are responsible for a decision that, according to our judgment, went wrong or was the product of fear.

The moment comes when we begin to give credit to ourselves and stop giving explanations to others. That allows us to have the opportunity to do or not doing what we really want at this moment.

It’s important to understand that it will never be too late to start something or take a different path, the one that we decide and not the one that someone else decided for us. If it’s the path we didn’t dare to take in the past, the knowledge acquired since will give us the strength to try again and for the results to be wonderful.

Repentance can be the motor of our will in order to achieve something. It’s the emotion that overwhelms us when we think that our current situation could be better if we had done something different in the past. We must understand that this can no longer be changed, and it’s useless to hurt us over it forever. You’re on time to make the necessary changes in your life and overcome any regrets.

Dr. Gayle Brewer (University of Central Lancashire School of Psychology) conducted a study with a sample of 2000 volunteers and focused mainly on the regrets in life’s last stage created a list of regrets, ordered from highest to lowest relevance, and whose objective is to reduce the regrets of future generations:

  1. Not having traveled enough
  2. Losing contact with friends
  3. Having practiced little (or none) sport
  4. Not having saved enough
  5. Not having quit smoking
  6. Not having studied more
  7. Take the wrong career choice
  8. Losing years with the wrong partner
  9. Unhealthy eating
  10. Not having been more interested in our grandparents while they were still alive
  11. Not having learned a second language
  12. Not having spent enough time with friends and family
  13. Not having told someone that’s no longer among us that you loved him
  14. Drinking too much alcohol
  15. Not having pursued a real challenge
  16. Not having learned to play a musical instrument correctly
  17. Fight with someone and never solve the problem
  18. Choose the wrong subjects at school or university
  19. Not speaking in front of a crowd
  20. Not taking a sabbatical year

It’s time to make your own list of regrets and turn them into projects, which will surely make you vibrate again. Don’t wait any longer.


This entry was originally posted at ‘Blog Retos Femeninos’


Sylvia is a multi-award-winning communicator, publicist, lecturer and spokesperson for women’s rights in different national and international forums. As an entrepreneur, she is the founder of the strategy of comprehensive communication for Women’s Challenges, focused on the personal and professional growth of thousands of women, and the initiative Enough of violence against women, among others. From 2007 to date, it presents the “International Women’s Day” event at the CDMX, Monterrey, and Guadalajara and from 2018, every year, in a different city, to cover the Mexican Republic. She is an ambassador for Vital Voices for her work promoting women’s rights.

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